What’s the concept here with the G-spot? What’s the controversy? Where does reality and research align? How do you find, hit, rub, and stimulate this mystery spot? Let’s explore this female anatomical phenomenon a bit more closely, and find out not only more about the G-spot, but what to do with it when arrive at this delight-filled destination.
In the 1990 movie Kindergarten Cop, there is a classic, albeit anatomically obvious, movie quote, “Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina.” Arnold Schwarzenegger’s character aptly replies, “Thanks for the tip.”
To this astute observation, we should clarify and add that “men have a prostate, women have a G-spot.” Surely, if you are reading this post you know what a prostate is (if you have one, you definitely should). You may even remember quite fondly the last time yours may have been fondled (and possibly even milked properly). For women and their sexual partners (male or female), the mystical, mythical, and even sometimes downright magical G-spot does not have to be a mystery, even if the anecdotal and scientific evidence do not align. Let’s first separate fact from fiction – according to an article on health24.com, “All women have G-spots. About 50% find stimulation of it pleasurable.” We could end this article here, but let’s probe a bit deeper to find out more about the elusive G-spot (pun intended).
The concept and the controversy
Since the concept of the G-spot first appeared in a popular book on human sexuality, its existence has become widely accepted certainly much more from the general public and directly from the personal testimonials from women who have drawn pleasure from this. The eponymous G-spot has remained an endless discussion, and often quite the heated debate in medical and scientific circles. As researchers have recently stated, the G-spot remains “a controversial topic among anatomists, gynecologists, sexual medicine specialists, and self-proclaimed sexologists.” In the most simple terms, the G-spot is an “allegedly” highly erogenous area on the anterior (front) wall of the human vagina. You’ll find it conveniently located about a third of the way (a few inches) up from the vaginal opening on your next expedition up that moist and embracing tunnel of love.
It’s not fake orgasmic news
Here’s a big disclaimer – this article won’t delve into the medical and scientific evidence that supports both sides of this controversy cavernous conundrum. Many researchers have examined the behavioral, biochemical, and anatomical reality that is the G-spot (which also includes a vast amount evidence of the women who naturally expel a fluid from the urethra that is different from urine – female ejaculation). For argument sake, we will assume that the research into the stimulation of this spot, which is said to result in high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms, is not fake orgasmic news. Dr. Ernest Gräfenberg was the first to propose the existence of such an anatomical area in women in a 1950 paper (Oddly as it may seem, Regnier deGraff who described it way back in the 17th century and called it the “female prostate” or “corpus glandulosum” apparently didn’t get the credit). It should be clarified that the term “G-spot” wasn’t coined until nearly three decades after Gräfenberg’s paper – in a 1981 article by Dr. Frank Addiego and his colleagues in The Journal of Sex Research.
Smack it up, flip it, rub it down, oh, no…
Here’s a teachable moment – all orgasms are not the same! The orgasm from stimulating the G‐spot varies physiologically from an orgasm that is produced by clitoral stimulation. During orgasm from clitoral stimulation, the end of the vagina balloons out. During orgasm from G‐spot stimulation, the cervix pushes down into the vagina. Many women experience a “blended orgasm” when the G‐spot and the clitoris are stimulated at the same time. However, it is important to note that not all women actually enjoy the feeling of stimulating their G‐spot area.
Here’s a second teachable moment – some women are able to reach orgasm without a direct stimulation of the external clitoris but just with the stimulation of their vagina. How is this even possible, you ask?
“Some women experienCE orgasm from stimulation solely of the G‐spot.”
Yes, some women describe experiencing orgasm from stimulation solely of the G‐spot. Sexual stimulation of the G‐spot produces a variety of feelings: discomfort, sensation of urination, or pleasure. With additional stimulation, the area may begin to swell, and then produce an intense orgasm. Add to this that there is a possibility of this occurring together with a semen‐like (although less viscous) fluid emission, the so‐called “female ejaculation,” thought to be the product of Skene’s glands.
Sadly, there are many women that simply do not reach the vaginally activated orgasm, despite different partners and different instruments used. For those that are able to achieve this type of orgasm, let’s explore some of the methodologies that may be employed to engage and stimulate the G-spot.
We are now aware that the G‐spot is a sensitive area felt through the anterior wall of the vagina about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix, along the course of the urethra. How can a women reach this on their own? Most women have reported that they have difficulty locating and stimulating their G‐spot by themselves simply because it is quite literally (and anatomically) out of their (manual) reach.
G‐spot self-stimulation with sexual devices
As described above, yes, women have reported that they have difficulty locating and stimulating their G‐spot by themselves, EXCEPT with a dildo, a G‐spot vibrator, or similar device (there are an innumerable amount of pleasure devices now available to aid in this stimulation). The Adonis Alpha makes no endorsement of the following but has observed that the best-selling vibrator in this G-spot device category on Adam & Eve is the Adam & Eve Silicone G-Gasm Rabbit, on Simpli Pleasure the top-rated is The Butterfly Kiss G-Spot Vibrator by California Exotics, sleek and heavy, the Pure Wand Metal Dildo from njoy is the top seller on Good Vibrations, the Desire Luxury Rechargeable Curved G-Spot Vibrator gets the highest rating on Lovehoney, while on Amazon, the top-rated Hyper Realistic Dildo, Anfei Slightly Bendable 9 Inch G-Spot Premium liquid Silicone Penis Dong with Suction Cup, Sex Toy for Female Masturbation can be yours to enjoy. If you have any experience with any of these devices, alone or with a partner (male or female), please let us know your thoughts in the comments and we will summarize the best reviews and testimonials for a possible future article.
G‐spot manual and oral stimulation by a partner
Many women have no difficulty identifying the erotic sensation when the G-spot is stimulated by a partner. Here’s where the anecdotal evidence is both compelling and overwhelming, much like the orgasm itself. With the help of a partner (male or female), it is easiest to feel the G‐spot with the woman lying on her back. If one or two fingers are inserted into the vagina, with the palm up, using a “come here” or “come hither” motion, the tissue that surrounds the urethra will begin to swell. When the area is touched initially, the woman may feel as if she needs to urinate, but if the touch continues for a few seconds longer, it may turn into a pleasurable feeling.
Regarding oral stimulation of the G-spot, unfortunately unless your name is Nick Stoeberl who holds the verified Guinness World Record for the longest tongue measures 10.1 cm (3.97 in) from its tip to the middle of the closed top lip, odds are you will need to settle for stimulating her G-spot with your hand while performing cunnilingus. Alternatively, you may also use your thumb to rub her clitoris, and then simultaneously use your first two fingers in the aforementioned motion to stimulate her G-spot.
G‐spot stimulation through vaginal intercourse
To effectively and efficiently stimulate her G‐spot during vaginal intercourse, it is advisable to consider some of the best positions that are recommended – with either the woman on top or with a man behind the woman (or female partner with a strap-on) for rear entry. Gentlemen, never fear, even the average-sized male penis holds the potential to hit the anterior wall of the vagina. Over the last decade, articles in several women’s magazines recommend that woman on top (The “Cowgirl”), rear entry (or more commonly referred to as doggy style), and closed missionary styles work to maximize her G-spot stimulation. Try one, try them all, and let us know which work best for her pleasure.
How do you know when it is working, you ask? The orgasm resulting from stimulation of her G‐spot is felt deep inside the body, and with more of a bearing‐down sensation, similar to a Valsalva maneuver.
G‐spot stimulation through anal intercourse
How can anal help with the stimulation of her G-spot? According to Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., “Because anal sex can stimulate the G-spot, women may find it highly erotic as well. To increase your enjoyment, take your time, use lots of silicone-based lubricant, experiment with different positions, and communicate with your partner about what feels good-and what doesn’t.”
G‐spot stimulation with prescribed pharmaceutical products and medical devices*
Which pharmaceutical and medical devices may aid in G-spot stimulation? Recent research in China has shown that an application of alprostadil to the G‐spot area is effective in women with female sexual arousal disorder.
There are a variety of off-label creams that may be prescribed by a doctor (there’s the aptly named “Scream Cream”) that can be ordered through a compounding pharmacy. There are also several approved medical devices. The challenge for both the creams and devices are these are applied to the clitoris (or external genitalia) and are not in contact or for use to stimulate the G-spot.
Then do it! Yes! Encouragement, my friend!
According to an article by the Cleveland Clinic, “only 10 percent of women easily climax. Most women are in the remaining 80-90 percent.” Women (and their partners) need to be encouraged to enjoy what they find pleasurable. Let’s all heed the time-tested advice that appears in the final chapter of the first book on “The G‐spot“, “if G‐spot stimulation feels good, then women should enjoy it, but they should not feel compelled to find the G‐spot. This is not a goal that women and their partners should strive to achieve.”
Good luck in your search for G-spot stimulation!