Who is more into casual sex? Men or women?
I think most of you will agree that the easy answer is men. Men want to fuck literally all the time. We’re like rabbits, with more of a sex drive. If women were as eager, life would be so much easier for us (even if the world had even worse overpopulation issues)!
But who do you think is hornier? Men or women?
The answer, counter-intuitively, is neither. Women are as keen to get laid as men. The only problem is, while a man will always orgasm unless something goes wrong, men are shit at making girls cum. In other words, men love casual sex because it’s pure pleasure with no strings attached. Many women hate it because chances are they’ll leave disappointed. Or even in pain.
I’ve got something to admit. I used to be really bad at sex. At the time, I only sort of knew this. When I’d get a girl into bed with me, I would do my best. I’d go down on her, fuck her in different positions (if I could last long enough to try more than one), and I’d listen to her cues. But because I knew so little about the female orgasm, I was shooting in the dark (no pun intended).
And I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get a consistent lay with no strings attached. Girls would let me fuck them once and then never come again. It was devastating for my man-meter to be put to shame over and over again. I felt like I wasn’t a real man, especially compared to the studs in pornos.
So I set out to learn how to make girls cum. I was worried that there was something wrong with my equipment. Maybe I just didn’t last long enough. But what I found was very different. I couldn’t make girls cum because it truly isn’t that easy. For girls, there’s no such thing as a quick wank. You can’t make them cum fast in just a few minutes. Well, not if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Once I learned a range of techniques to make her orgasm (which I’m about to share with you), everything changed. Girls started coming back for more. They knew they could rely on me to give them the time of their lives. It wasn’t that I lasted particularly long (although I learned techniques to make myself last as long as possible). You can learn how to make a girl orgasm in as little as 5 minutes of physical action.
It’s time you learn more about the female orgasm and how to make your girlfriend cum. Enough of the intro. Let’s get down to business and turn you into a girl’s ultimate pleasure machine, guaranteed to make her cum and keep coming back on demand!
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1. Get Her Juices Flowing, Long Before You Get Down To The Action
Have you ever been close to cumming just from fantasizing? It happens to men occasionally, especially when we haven’t been fucked in a while. It happened all the time just after puberty, and like many other men I still sometimes have wet dreams.
If it’s happened to you, you know the role the mind plays in getting you off. For women, the mind is even more important. It’s the mind that gets her wet, and convinces her you’re going to make her orgasm. It’s why girls continue having casual sex, even after countless disappointments. Even if a man can’t do it for her, she can get close in her mind.
For this reason, you need to start early. Obviously, how you go about it depends on your relationship with her. If you’re seeing a girl for the first time, you need to use some powerful seduction techniques, like the ones my buddy Chris teachers at The Manic Workshops.
Try the following:
- Appear badass confident. Confidence is a major turn on for girls. They don’t want to know about your insecurities from the get-go. A guy who believes in his ability on how to pleasure them is way more likely to actually pleasure them.
- Make eye contact. There’s a fine line here between flirty and creepy. Don’t make eye contact for too long. Simply glance in her direction and make it clear that your eyes are on her, not her friends. Show you’re attracted to her, but try not to look overly sleazy. The key is to get to her pussy through her eyes, so make sure you look I guarantee you that a powerful look along with a suggestive smile can make her panties wet in no time. I’m a true believer in the power of the mind.
- Compliment her. Don’t just the her “you’re beautiful,” like every other guy who’s tried to pick her up. If you do tell her that, tell her exactly why. Check out what I would tell her here, but proceed with care.
- Drop some hints that imply you’d love to get her in bed. Don’t be overzealous with this. Don’t say anything that will make her uncomfortable or think of you as creepy.
If you’re already in a relationship and want to get your girlfriend or wife to cum, you have many more options to get her going during the day.
Try the following:
- Send her suggestive texts during the day. You don’t have to be subtle, since she’s already with you. But subtlety can be more of a turn on than brazen statements of intent. Tell her you’re thinking of her body, that you have some fun ideas you want to try, or simply that you’re longing to kiss her.
- In the ideal situation, she’ll take this further, picking up on your hints and asking you to elaborate. This is when you can get into details. You can truly electrify her work day like this.
- If you know she’s comfortable with it, suggest watching some porn you can both enjoy to get her into the mood. Of course, it matters that you’re comfortable with it as well, and won’t become insecure because of the unrealistic standards set by pornstars, like the insane amount of cum they can offload.
2. Explore Her Body With Your Tongue… Including All Her Nooks And Crannies
Along with verbal seduction, there are other very effective ways you can implement to warm a girl up. One of the most reliable is to use your lips to tease her. Don’t go straight to her most erogenous zones. Start by giving her kisses. The thing I love about kissing a girl, is that something so innocent becomes absolutely orgasmic when you do it right.
Kiss her on the lips, then work your way around them. Nibble on her ears. Kiss her neck. Then begin to go down her body.
All this time, come tantalizingly close to her breasts and pussy, without actually touching them. Teasing her this way will only make her want it more.
Don’t underestimate the power of the places you’d usually ignore. Pay attention to her lower back, right before the crack begins. Kiss and bite her butt cheeks. Tickle with your tongue her inner legs, the backs of her knees, her ankles. Caress her feet.
Eventually, caress her breasts with your lips, but don’t go down on her just yet. By the time you go down on her, you want her to already be well on her way to drowning in pussy juices.
All this time, you can tease her with words, as well. Tell her how much you want to make her cum and listen to her moan with pleasure. Make her burst for the pleasure that awaits her. Let your lips and tongue imply what they’re going to do to her.
Don’t rush. When she is breathing heavily, and you cannot wait any longer, move on down to her clitoris.
This is the point where some men get nervous. I used to be one of those men. Now, this is when I really get excited, as I prepare to make her juices flow down my lips.
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3. Stimulate The Clitoris With Your Tongue… And I Guarantee Her Pussy Juice Will Run Down Your Chin
Hopefully, you’re able to find the clitoris without much trouble. If you still haven’t mastered female anatomy, read up on it here. It is critical to pleasing a woman, as there is no more sensitive and pleasurable point in her entire body. That’s why a 3D model of the clitoris is already being brought into schools in some parts of the world!
The clitoris contains 8,000 nerve endings. It is the most direct route to a female orgasm, and you need to master the art of stimulating it if you want to consistently make your girlfriend cum.
As author Dossie Easton says, “the existence of my clitoris is proof positive that God loves me.”
But locating the clitoris is just the first step. Because it is so insanely sensitive, it has the potential to cause a girl a lot of pain as well. If you go in guns blazing, you’re as likely to chase her away as you are to keep her coming – and coming back for more.
It is a good idea to start with your fingers, gently touching her clitoris, to get an idea of its shape and size, and to gauge how sensitive it is. You can bring a girl to orgasm just with your fingers. Many girls masturbate with nothing more, after all. I love doing it when going further isn’t a possibility. Like in public, in a cinema, or even a restaurant if I feel like taking risks.
The truth is, however, that your tongue is the ultimate tool on how to make her cum.
You need to do what it takes to learn to lick pussy. We have articles about both the basics and some advanced techniques. For now, let’s suffice it to say that only fools rush in. You absolutely must take it slow.
You must absolutely ask her what’s working for her and what’s not. We always complain about how hard it is to know what girls want. But in this department, in the heat of the moment, they’ll tell you exactly what they need from you. They won’t want to play games, but to get you to do what it takes to bring them the ultimate pleasure.
Cunnilingus is the most reliable route to orgasm for 80% of women. Give this area of your arsenal the attention it deserves. This way, no matter how long you last, no matter what your size, you will be giving her all the pleasure she can imagine.
“Find the thing that works for your girl, and keep doing it…repeatedly…until she comes. If you want her to come back time and again, don’t stop until she’s screaming for more” – Anonymous Female Reader
4. Fuck Her In A Way That Stimulates Her Clit
By this time, you should have at least brought her close to orgasm, if not made her cum at least once. If you haven’t, she might be one of those girls who struggles to reach orgasm no matter what you do. Keep trying, but if you’re simply not getting anywhere, move on anyway. Otherwise, you can make her clit extra sensitive without the ultimate pleasure, and that can soon turn to pain.
Now is the time to focus a bit more on yourself. Because, while most men love eating pussy, at this point neither you nor her have actually touched your dick. Your orgasm is going to come from penetrating her with your penis.
But that doesn’t mean you should forget about her pleasure. Ideally, you’re going to give her multiple orgasms, increasing your reputation and making her want you more than ever. Also, women love orgasming from penetrative sex, because this way you both get to orgasm together. Just as you will feel increased gratification from pleasing her, she will feel the same about pleasing you.
Even if it doesn’t lead to orgasm, girls do feel pleasure from penetrative sex. That’s why they consent to it, after all, even with men who have failed to bring them to orgasm in the past. But you can take it so much further just by adjusting your technique.
You can see a list of great sex positions here, and you should definitely try every one of them out. However, in order to bring her to orgasm, you’ve gotta focus on penetrating her in a way that continues to stimulate her clitoris. You’re not going to have the amount of control you have with your fingers or mouth, but you can hit the sweet spot over and over again.
The CAT position is a simple way of stimulating her clitoris in the missionary position. Lie on top of her, with your legs on the outside of hers. Penetrate her, and then with her legs together, move your body slightly forwards onto her stomach.
Thrust slowly and then build the rhythm as she gets more aroused. Your penis will rub against her clitoris. This will give her an earth shattering clitoral orgasm, with the added benefit of vaginal stimulation. This is the easiest way to give her an orgasm through penetration.
Another very effective position that will bring her to orgasm is with her on top, so that she can move in such a way that your penis stimulates her again and again. For some men, this is the ideal, as it puts far less pressure on you.
5. Switch It Up By Fucking Her Up The Ass
Women who have anal sex are more likely to reach orgasm than those who only have vaginal sex. That’s a crazy statistic, and there are varying opinions as to why this is true. Correlation does not necessarily mean causation, and it could be that girls who reach orgasm more easily are also more adventurous.
Either way, if the girl you’re with is ready to try anal, this could be your route to bringing her to orgasm while actually fucking her. You’ll love it as much as she does. As Johnny Drama says, “The vagina’s my third favorite hole, bro.”
Broach the subject carefully, and only after doing your research. Anal sex hurts more than vaginal sex, which is just one reason many girls don’t want to try it. It’s not something you should suggest to just any girl. Ask your girlfriend or wife, but don’t ask a girl who has shown no desire to try anything more out there than vaginal sex.
That said, if you do sense that a girl will be into it, bring it up. If she says yes, great. If she says no, go about pleasing her in any of the other ways we’ve discussed.
I’ve made some girls uncomfortable by asking. But usually, just asking the question isn’t hurting anyone. Some girls are prudish about what they will and won’t do, but most are happy to tell you if you ask them.
- Make her squirt by stimulating the so-called G-Spot. This is the sensitive area on the roof of the vagina, which feels rough to the touch. It is about the size of a penny, and feels like the skin of a kiwi fruit. Some women squirt more than others, so do not put too much stock in the volume of her ejaculate.
- Dirty talk throughout foreplay and sex is a great way to keep her turned on and into it. If you’re not yet getting her to orgasm, this will keep her focused until you do succeed.
- If you’re worried you won’t last long enough, these above techniques will ensure you please her anyway. But for your own sake, there are ways to learn to last longer. Do the research and practice.