Every man wants to be that guy that satisfies his woman. What’s sex without the satisfaction that it gives? It’s not surprising that it becomes a concern to any man when they struggle with lasting longer in bed. Lasting longer in bed comes with the benefit of enjoying a healthier relationship with your partner. It’s a no-brainer. More pleasure means more happiness in the relationship. And the cherry on the cake is you have a measure of control.

What is Premature Ejaculation?

A lack of sexual stamina sometimes is a diagnosable condition caused by premature ejaculation (PE). However, not every man who desires increased stamina would be diagnosed with PE. Urology Care defines premature ejaculation as “when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sex”. 

Campbell Walsh Urology conducted a study to measure the performances of 1,587 men. The study revealed that the average time a man can maintain intercourse without ejaculating is 7 minutes. Men who have been diagnosed with PE last an average of 2 mins.

If it’s any consolation, Premature ejaculation is a common issue that affects 30% to 40% of men. The Causes of PE range from Psychological to biological factors.

Whether you wish to last longer as a result of early ejaculation that causes you to feel down or you are just looking to improve your sexual stamina, you have run into luck today. Desiring to improve your sexual stamina to last longer in bed is not a pipe dream. We are going to discuss methods to help you last longer in bed.


Biofeedback helps you take control of involuntary actions. According to Research Gate, with biofeedback individuals can voluntarily control autonomic functions and that level of control can improve with practice. During sexual intercourse, you can train your mind to control your body by becoming familiar with and regulating the triggers that cause you to ejaculate too early. A biofeedback therapist can guide you with this.


Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) are pharmacologic therapy for Erectile Dysfunction. They are antidepressants containing substances that can delay ejaculation. Alternatively, there are Erectile Dysfunction drugs such as Ofnoah’s viagra that improve erection by increasing blood flow into your penis when you’re sexually aroused. It blocks the action of enzymes that help chemical reactions to occur in your body. This process keeps the blood flow in your penis and helps you stay erect. It works to prolong the pleasure as much as you and your partner want.

A word of caution: Medications must be strictly prescriptive. Medications like these are only given if one has been diagnosed with Erectile Dysfunction and MUST be prescribed by your doctor.  


Anything that decreases the sensitivity of your penis can sometimes help to delay ejaculation. Feeling fewer sensations helps you take longer to climax. Desensitizer cream, spray and gels can be applied to the top of the penis before penetration occurs. Some have found condoms to be helpful in decreasing sensitivity. Opt for thick condoms and not the extra thin ones. 

What you eat

The popular saying “you are what you eat” comes into play here. Certain foods like fenugreek can increase free testosterone which can help to delay ejaculation. Zinc supplements are also beneficial for testosterone, libido,and energy build. Also, look out for foods that contain magnesium like oysters, pumpkin garlic, yogurt, and more.

Maintain a Healthy lifestyle 

Studies continue to prove that sexual health has a direct link to general health and that one’s lifestyle plays a major role in shaping sexual health. Check your habits and cut down on unhealthy ones to improve your sexual function. Learn to manage your stress levels with yoga meditation and breathing exercises. Alcohol is good in moderation but smoking is a no-no.


As much as it helps women, it does help men too. Flex the same muscle you would use to stop the flow of urine midstream – the same muscle that allows you to avoid passing gas. Flex them by clenching and releasing them. Kegel helps to strengthen already weak pelvic floor muscles. Weak pelvic floors contribute to losing control of when you ejaculate. You need to strengthen your pelvic walls to get better control.

How to kegel

  • breathe easy and focus to avoid contracting the wrong muscles. 
  • Flex your pelvic muscles for three seconds and then rest for three seconds. 
  • Three sets of 10 repetitions per day can yield results in strengthening your pelvic.

Deep breathing

Deep breathing helps you refocus your mind and better control erections. Slowing down stimulation while breathing slowly and deeply when nearing ejaculation controls ejaculation.


Visualization is a mental tool that can fight feelings of climax. You can use your mind’s eye to help you disconnect or connect ‘in the moment’ with images you form in your head. For instance, if you are about to climax, you can think up something unrelated to sex to help you snap out of the “mood”.


Edging helps to delay climax by drawing out pleasure. It’s a sexual practice of stopping yourself from reaching orgasm right when you’re close to the climax — the cusp. You wait and stop the stimulation for about 30 seconds before continuing.

Avoid penetrative sex for awhile

Explore other means of getting and giving pleasure. Penetration can be avoided to concentrate on satisfying your partner and prolonging the pleasure. Foreplay can be a vehicle in this instance to extend the sexual activity. Oral sex or manual stimulation can also help. 


Psychotherapy can help you identify any fundamental psychological causes of not lasting long in bed.  

The secret to successfully combating the challenge of not lasting long in bed is to keep trying until you find what works for you. However, if you have tried all the home and self-care remedies open to you without success, it’s a good time to talk to a doctor. I hope this helps you in your quest to last longer in bed.


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